Halloween is right around the bend. And if you’re anything like me and my andro-hottie wife, you might find yourself scrambling a week before Halloween, looking for the perfect last-minute couple-costume! Don’t panic! I’ve got a few fun DIY ideas on this list! And, if you plan a little bit ahead, you can rock some of these other fairly simple butch/femme couple costume ideas! If you’re creative with a lamp shade or a make-up kit, I’ve got you covered too!  I’ve even thrown in a couple of bunny-inspired costumes as an homage to our kick-a$$ bunny-loving Editor in Chief, Memoree Joelle! 

The mainstream media doesn’t give us lesbians much to work with, so I’ve had to improvise quite a bit with this list! Fun tip: Add “Dead” to any of the ideas below… Like Dead Care Bears or Dead Bonnie and Clyde or… well, you get the point! A little fake blood goes a long way. Mwah ha ha ha.

1. Poussey and Soso from Orange Is The New Black

 Scrubs and a wife-beater… Grab your Poussey and head out to the party!

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2. Princess Leia & Hanna Solo

It wasn’t just the boys dreaming of that golden bikini!

3. Ralphie and the Leg Lamp

(or if you ladies wanna take your silly side out for a spin, Ralphie can sport the infamous bunny pajamas) 

Throw on a lamp shade and give her a good excuse to feel your fishnet all night long (just the one)… And later she can turn you on!

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4. Sandy and Danny from Grease

Your chills (and other things) will multiply in this sexy DIY costume!

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5. Jessica and Roger Rabbit

A great reason to break out the bow tie collection. “I’m not bad I’m just drawn that way.”

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6. Bonnie and Clyde

Another easy costume idea… If your honey is anything like mine, she’ll jump at the chance to bust out her best suit!

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7. Ghostbusters

Who you gonna call? A stud hottie!

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8. Wonder Woman and her Lasso-ed stud

She comes from an Island filled with only women. Lesbi honest… Our version is way more likely anyway.

9. Alice and Nivens McTwisp

Throw on those bunny ears! Don’t be late for this very important date!

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10. Beetlejuice and Lydia

If you’re handy with make up, this costume is sure to make your Halloween day-O!

11. Care Bears

My wife and I made these costumes with a needle & thread, felt and stuffing. The little heart on her booty gives you the perfect excuse to stare…

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12. Bella and Edwina in Breaking Dawn

The vampire couple is a go-to classic! Bonus lesbian points if you dress up your dog (or cat) as your vampire love-child.

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 So there you have it! Easy, sometimes sleazy 1…2…3-zy! Happy Halloween my lovely lez-ladies!

Julia Diana Robertson is an award-winning author. You can find her (and her fiction) at www.juliadianarobertson.com

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Feb 10 2019

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I was asked to cover the “lesbian character” Lizzy (Russian Doll). I said—sure, great—but also casually explained why I’d cover her as bisexual. The response I got back:  She’s a lesbian but “interesting read.”

“Lesbians” on TV are continually portrayed as sexually pliable—people expect it—And this translation leads to dangerous misconceptions IRL.

I know that when I point this sort of thing out, I run the risk of burning bridges. The task may go to someone who doesn’t ask questions. The few mainstream “lesbian” publications remaining are largely staffed by non-lesbians, so it won’t be hard to find someone who’s willing to call Lizzy a lesbian.
But translating this as “lesbian” = a subtle form of lesbian conversion therapy (be “cool” about your sexual boundaries).
It won’t change unless lesbians speak up. And that’s a challenge in and of itself, since lesbian voices are the most heavily censored and filtered in the mainstream. Lesbians risk jobs when they speak up. I’m glad bisexuals are represented. My dog is bi…
 (Netflix) is binge-worthy. is brilliant. I WISH Lizzy was a lesbian character. We need unapologetically lesbian lesbians on TV…Because while it may only appeal to a limited gaze, it’ll make the world a better & safer place for lesbians.
As I’m typing this, I’ve just received a follow up email. It’s just been confirmed that “Lizzie is a lesbian”…“confirmed it with folks from the show” and “The character did not have sex with the man you reference or any other man.”
But what hasn’t been confirmed: That I’m still getting the interview. Something tells me they’re going to find someone who doesn’t ask questions…
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Lizzy wakes up in a pile & says “Oh shit, looks like I got mixed up in something VERY nice.” This shot, this scene (photo above), is quite literally the universal film symbol for “had sex last night.”
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She turns to check the guy out and smirks…
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And turns to look back at her friend with a smile…
So I guess I can add this to my ever-expanding list.
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It’s pretty clear they’re indicating this “lesbian” has woken up after group sex…But in case it’s not clear, there’s this follow up line: “You gonna head back up to the f*ck pile?”
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Mainstream compulsively perpetuates “lesbian” as sexually flexible and down for ‘adventure’—Yeah…No.
And lesbians should promote this depiction?
These scraps are all we get?

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After watching the Lea DeLaria interview on StyleLikeU, I can only think one thing: Get me the names of the 30 people who stood around and watched DeLaria get butch-bashed— A beat down so extreme, she was kept in the hospital for 3 days.

“The worst of it was that people watched it happen and did nothing to intercede…” says Lea DeLaria, “…30 people that did nothing.”

She excuses them, but I don’t.  Even before I knew who Stormé DeLarverie was, I could always hear her Stonewall call to arms, somewhere in the back of my mind— “WHY DON’T YOU DO SOMETHING?!” I wish I could. I wish I could San Junipero to the 80’s, Pride week in San Fran, when a man broke Lea DeLaria’s nose, damaged her eye socket and cracked her ribs, because I know I would’ve had her back.

Red lipstick, long hair and all— DeLaria isn’t a fan of stereotypes and neither am I— I’m THAT girl… the girl in the parking lot who jumped on a guy’s back because he was pummeling my high school friend’s face to a pulp (while his ‘boys’ just stood there and watched). The girl on the 6 train who made a crying shoe-less teenager get off the train, and then stood in front of the closing doors, arms crossed, staring down the gang of teens who were threatening to kill him once they reached their stop. “Saved by a girl” one of them muttered. A girl, yes…that’s me,  red lipstick, long hair and all. And I know I got lucky. I know it wasn’t the smart thing to do. But it was the right thing to do.

Photo: Denis Largeron

Photo: Denis Largeron

Lea DeLaria has short hair and doesn’t wear lipstick, but that doesn’t mean she’s out starting bar fights and looking to throw down— She’s dedicated her life to fighting media stereotypes of lesbians, that either erase ‘butch’ women or reduce them to a hyperbole. She looks dapper in a suit, but that doesn’t mean she should be subjected to profoundly sexist tropes like: ‘If you wanna act like a man, I’ll treat you like a man.’ But that’s exactly the type of abuse that’s exacerbated by the media. In this short interview, DeLaria reveals some hidden truths: Society consistently fails to protect ‘androgynous’ women, even within the ‘LGBT’ community. And the media perpetuates the mistreatment of butch women by turning them into a punchline, or a problem that needs to be fixed.

“My entire life has been trying to put a positive spin on what it is to be butch. Media has always portrayed us as fat and stupid… and we beat our wives, we cause fights, we drive trucks,” Lea DeLaria says.

In 2017, DeLaria is still the only butch actress to play a prominent role on a mainstream show. She’s been playing the same butch punchline (punching bag) since the 90’s, when she was cast an extra, a guest at Carol and Susan’s wedding on Friends. Still, to this day, butch lesbians are seen as something to be ridiculed and/or obliterated. Lesbians are only ever portrayed through the inaccuracy of the male gaze. And in that vision, there’s nothing more off-putting than a lesbian who isn’t both ‘femme’ and pliable. ‘Lesbian’ couples on TV fit a formula where one of them must be bisexual and they BOTH must be femme. While representing femme and bi characters is great— this formula keeps the stigma of androgynous lesbians alive and well. Even female writers must follow this formula to appease male-dominated networks. While the media is finally starting to represent more women of color, the only andro-adjacent WOC represented on TV— Poussey— is given a punchline for a name, falls for a straight woman, and subsequently becomes a victim of bury-your-andro black lesbian.

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Smokey eye-shadowed Shane (one of the only other somewhat butch-adjacent leads on TV) is scripted to admit she’s prostituted herself to gay men— Oh, but she “only” gave them “hand jobs.” The phenomenon itself— Shane’s ‘androgynous’ appearance making her an object of desire for gay men— is very real. However, the male fantasy of an actual lesbian prostituting herself to gay men is unrealistic. This fetishizing of androgynous lesbians is rarely, if ever, discussed. But the misogyny of it, the systematic abuse that androgynous women are targeted with, even within the gay community, is unparalleled.

“Emotions are something that I…” DeLaria sings,  “…shove it down, don’t feel it.” She adds, “And trying to put this big strong face on everything.”

Society crushes butch and androgynous women on a regular basis, and it crushes all of us by extension. There’s nothing like watching the woman you love get called “Sir” on a regular basis by snarky waitstaff or the grocery cashier. Nothing like watching her get propositioned by gay men every time she dares step foot into WEHO. ‘But…come on… She’s really a man, right?’— People actually say things like this. It’s the: ‘She’s asking for it’, only on the polar opposite end of mini-skirt blaming.
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“I felt very deeply each insult that would happen to me. Every time somebody called me a dyke on the street when I was younger and I remember wanting to change things…so that didn’t happen.”

When DeLaria talks about wanting to “change,” no one, other than lesbians, can possibly know how bad it gets. Here’s a small peek into our world: A little over a year ago, when a butch lesbian bought a gay dive bar in Westchester NY, gay men staged a boycott. While a small number of wonderfully loyal gay men tried to support her, the majority put her out of business in a matter of months, even though she promised not to make it a lesbian bar. The new owner hired me to tend bar (just one night a week).  She hired one other lesbian as a barback, a young butch woman who was propositioned nightly by gay men— She would try to set them straight, or when it got to be too much, she would tell me, and then I would try. When the older gay man that managed the bar opened his mouth one night, to show her its contents (what he’d been doing in the alley way) she didn’t know what to do. And this is the sort of abuse that happens to andro lesbians all the time.

“There’s this thing inside your head, when you get home like at the end of your day and you walk into your apartment and you close the door and… there’s a part of you that goes, ‘phew. Made it. Nobody beat me up, nobody called me a dyke on the street. Today was a good day.”

Photo via Buzzfeed

Photo via Buzzfeed

 The media teaches young butch lesbians that they’re so revolting, people should take a jab at them, and, as DeLaria says, the “media has always portrayed [butch lesbians] as fat and stupid.” DeLaria says she “ate a lot as a comfort situation.” How exactly are lesbians supposed to find comfort in a world that doesn’t want them… unless they can be the ‘right’ kind of lesbian? What kind of harm might they inflict upon themselves?

In a 2017 People Entertainment video, the explanation for why the only butch character on The L Word, Moira, becomes Max— “Moira kind of doesn’t really fit with the rest of the group… she’s not a girly–girl.”  In a Curve interview, Lea DeLaria says, “Queer people are more inclined to support transmen than they are butches— not that there’s anything wrong with supporting transmen. All I’m saying is nelly fags and butch dykes still bear the brunt of animosity in society, and especially from our own community.”

We see this very reality reflected in the media: DeLaria is the first butch lesbian actress to play a major role on a mainstream series, OITNB, but she still portrays the butch stereotype… Yet Elliot Fletcher, featured on The Fosters (and on Shameless), doesn’t portray a caricature or a punchline at all.

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Everything we see is filtered through a mainstream marketing campaign, geared to reinvent lesbians into something more palatable to the masses. The desire to change, kill off, humiliate, and shame butch women, doesn’t just hurt androgynous women, it hurts the women that love them and the entire lesbian community. Still, the majority watch and say nothing— A silence which is eerily reminiscent of DeLaria’s assault at Gay Pride in 1980, while 30 people just stood there and did nothing.

“The stuff that you get, whether it’s in the in the media or whatever…” DeLaria says, “…it’s all very male oriented. It’s all about how it’s gonna affect them as a man.”

As for the “whatever” DeLaria references, I think I can fill in the blanks: The government. Lawmakers. Organizations. Journalism… The animosity towards lesbians isn’t just maintained by a male-dominated mainstream, it’s maintained by a male-dominated ‘LGBT.’

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Homophobia is a generalized term, but because everything is male-dominated, the homophobia is specifically directed at lesbians. We’ve been so conditioned to see the world through man-goggles, we often don’t realize it’s happening. Women are conditioned to perpetuate misogyny. And in 2017 it’s getting worse. Teen Vogue is teaching young girls to give anal sex a try, labeling diagrams of their sex organs “non prostate owners.” While the clitoris— the most essential part of female anatomy, when it comes to sexual pleasure— is left off the diagram entirely.

“Gay ‘conversion therapy’ has been proven not to work. But you can unlearn your own prejudices; it just takes time and conscious effort.”—Everyday Feminism.

Like most women in a male-dominated… well… everything… DeLaria can only say so much if she wants to keep her job. But she says a lot in this obscure, fairly short interview, and that’s where the torch gets passed to women like me— red lipstick, ponytail and all. As DeLaria tells her story, I instinctively want to protect her— and I will push a ‘stud’ behind me when I see danger approaching. They might not like it, but I’ll do it. That’s my instinct. No one understands the pain and daily struggle of a butch or andro girl like a femme. The psychological warfare waged upon butch and andro women, and lesbians in general, is severe. Yet in 2017, lesbians aren’t really ‘allowed’ to gather or talk about these things outside of patriarchal rule. And, as a result, we’ve gone underground and set up secret spaces where we can talk in private. Secret passwords and all. History, repeating itself:

“Keep your  [homosexual] ‘preferences’ to yourself. And speaking of [same sex] ‘preferences,’ here is some recommended reading from The Establishment about how preferences are, in fact, exclusionary and wrong” —Pride.com

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DeLaria recently said that “because of mainstream assimilationist wannabe queers who usurped our movement in the early part of our century, we’re back to where we were before.” Shame. Homophobia… She’s seen a lot. DeLaria is 50-something years old, and as I watch her strip down— a theme in StyleLikeU interviews— I have mixed feelings (about the stripping). Especially when I hear a male voice cheer her on with an emphatic “yes!” in the background, as she takes off her pants and gets down to her boxers. Now that she’s been given a tiny platform, on which she can drop the butch stereotype, I can actually see her. I have a newfound love and respect for Lea DeLaria… and this happens way before her clothes come off.

DeLaria on StyleLikeU

Originally Posted on Huffington Post on 11-28-17 and is shared with the permission of AfterEllen writer Julia Diana Robertson

Shane, played by actress Katherine Moennig on The L Word

Mainstream media perpetuates the shaming of butch/androgynous/stud (call it what you will) lesbians, with homophobia that specifically targets lesbians— For the most part, butch characters only get to play extras, and only if they fit into a very particular ‘butch’ cookie-cutter prototype. They must be willing to take a slap in the face with the typical sarcastic— “Are you a boy or a girl?”— retort. (Girlboss) Yet butch/androgynous/stud (call it what you will) lesbians aren’t trying to “be men.” They don’t “look like men.” And the women who love them aren’t with them because they “really want to be with men.”

Sexuality can’t be tricked. Colors, haircuts, clothes, interests and activities don’t have a ‘gender.’ Rigid ‘gender norms’ are no more than sexist stereotypes created long ago (by men). Biologically innate same-sex attraction is as delicious as an andro-beauty in a Ralph Lauren suit.

But the magic isn’t in the tie and the button-down shirt… It’s in the female heaven underneath it all. Say it with me now.

Shane and Carmen, The L Word

In 2017, the mainstream media wants us to know that they’re okay with ‘lesbians,’ but only if we fit their idea of the ‘right kind of lesbian’— the version of a ‘lesbian’ that’s obsessively rammed down our throats— feminine and open to whatever. They’ve sent a clear message to non-femme lesbians:  either change or make yourself invisible.
There’s a very real and frightening desire to eradicate ‘butch’ lesbians from view. And this cruel dehumanizing sentiment is echoed everywhere— from schools, to the local diner, to the grocery check out line. As you look at the list of 100 below, imagine what it must feel like for a young ‘androgynous’ girl to never see herself as anything other than the butt of a joke. A riddle to be solved. Imagine what it’s like for all lesbians by extension. Consider the level of misogyny that the mainstream media maintains. Think about the message it’s sending, and the internalized homophobia it may cause.

Now, without further ado (and in no particular order), I present you with the mother of all visual aids:

1. Stef and Lena.

Like many other current shows, The Fosters is willing to break new grounds and push the limits, just not when it comes to putting a butch lesbian on their screen.

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Steph and Lena, The Fosters

2. Waverly and Nicole

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Waverly and Nicole, Wynonna Earp

3. Alex and Maggie

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Alex and Maggie, Supergirl

4. Carol and Susan. Couldn’t resist this uber-femme F.R.I.E.N.D.S. wedding throwback.

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Carol and Susan, F.R.I.E.N.D.S.

5. Barbara and Tabitha

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Barbara and Tabitha, Gotham

6. Chloe and Catherine

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Chloe and Catherine, Chloe

7. Mia and Guilda (and some guy)

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Mia and Guilda, Head in the Clouds

8. Renee and Barbara

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Renee and Barbara, Gotham

9. Leah and Arizona

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Arizona and Leah, Grey’s Anatomy

10. Yasmin. On a recent episode of Scandal, we find out Rashad’s niece, Yasmin, has a girlfriend, but (spoiler alert)…

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Yasmin and girlfriend, Scandal

… in true “Bury your Gays” fashion, she waves us one last goodbye and gets blown up on a plane. It was pretty cool to finally see an Arab lesbian represented on a mainstream show. Guess I’ll keep waiting…
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Scandal

11. Arizona and Carina

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Arizona and Carina, Grey’s Anatomy

12. Heather and Callie

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Heather and Callie, Grey’s Anatomy

13. Nic and Jules. Apparently, mainstream’s version of ‘lesbians’ watch gay man porn… Jules, predictably, has an affair with the sperm donor.

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Nic and Jules in, The Kids Are Alright

14. Cosima and Delphine

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Cosima and Delphine, Orphan Black

15. Wendy and Lana. Ryan Murphy’s vision of lesbians is always femme on femme, catered to the male gaze… And sometimes strapped to tables, raped, amputated and crawling out of basements.

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Wendy-Lana, AHS (Ryan Murphy)

16. Ramona and Countess…

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Ramona and Countess, AHS (Ryan Murphy)

17. more AHS girl on girl for men…

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AHS

…literally.. This guy with a creepy doll is in the room watching.
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AHS

18. Moira and her mistress (looking up at some guy).

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Moira and her mistress, AHS (Ryan Murphy)

19. Natasha and the Countess (and some guy) . Okay Ryan… we get the point.

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Natasha and Countess, AHS

20. Lyria and Eretria

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Lyria & Eretria, The Shannara Chronicles

21. Jenny and Marina

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Jenny and Marina, the L word

22. Bette and Tina

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Bette and Tina, the L word

…Bette and Tina (and some guy).
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Bette and Tina, the L word

23. Throwback to Gia and Linda. But Gia is based on a true story.

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Gia and Linda, Gia

24. Jody and Bette…

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Bette and Jody, LWord

25. Nikki and Jenny…

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Nikki and Jenny, the L Word

26. Holly and Gail…

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Holly and Gail, Rookie Blue

27. Alison and Naomi…

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Alison and Naomi, American Gothic

28. Bo and Lauren…

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Bo and Lauren, Lost Girl

29. Root and Shaw…

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Root and Shaw, Person of Interest

30. Pippy and Tara…

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Rosewood

31. Tara and Denise…

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Tara and Denise, The Walking Dead

32. Arizona and Eliza…

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Arizona and Eliza, Grey’s Anatomy

33. Alex and Piper. Piper’s character on Orange is The New Black (a.k.a. OITNB) is actually loosely based on a real person, Piper Kerman.

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Alex and Piper, OITNB

34. Penny and Callie…

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Penny and Callie, Grey’s Anatomy

35. Nikki and Lorna…

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Nikki and Lorna, OITNB

36. Erica and Callie (and Mark)…

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Callie and Erica, Grey’s Anatomy

37. Trisha and Mercy. The role of Trisha, a drug addict, was played by Madeline Brewer, on OITNB (spoiler alert)…

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Trisha, OITNB

…Brewer had the les-swag down really well…She became a victim of “Bury your Gays.”
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Mercy and Trisha, OITNB

38. Nina and Lily…

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Black Swan

39. Paige and Emily…

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Paige and Emily, Pretty Little Liars

40. Throwback to Pauline and Juliet…

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Heavenly Creatures

41. Allison and Emily…

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Allison and Emily, Pretty Little Liars

42. Thelma and Anja. Sure to sell lots of mainstream tickets in 2017.

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Thelma, 2017

43. Janet and Bianca…

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Janet and Bianca, Janet King

44. Julie & Nikki…

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Julie & Nikki, The Returned

45. Arizona and Callie. Grey’s Anatomy is willing to push the boundaries… Just not when it comes to having a butch lesbian on their show.

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Grey’s Anatomy

46. Shay and Clarice…

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Shay and Clarice, Chicago Fire

47. Emily and Maya…

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Emily and Maya, Pretty Little Liars

48. Lara and Dana…

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Lara and Dana, the L Word

49. Santana and Brittney on Glee.

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Santana and Brittany, Glee (Ryan Murphy)

…The pair end up in flowing white wedding dresses.
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Santana and Brittany, Glee

50. Throwback to Suzie and Kellie.

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Suzie and Kelly, Wild Things

51. Maggie and Sydney…

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Maggie and Sydney, Saving Hope

52. Clarke and Lexa…

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Clarke and Lexa, The 100

53. Freya and Keelin…

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Freya and Keelin, The Originals

54. Sabrina and Emily…

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Sabrina and Emily, Pretty Little Liars

55. Bianca and Reese…

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Bianca and Reese, All My Children

56. Tamsin and Bo…

Lost Girl

57. Dani and Santana. Glee was willing to break new ground… So long as lesbians were still checking off the “pink is for girls” box.

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Dani and Santana, Glee

 

58. Fionna and Charlie…

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Fionna and Charlie, Degrassi

59. Frankie and Bridget….

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Frankie and Bridget, Wentworth

60. Imogen and Fionna…

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Imogen and Fionna, Degrassi

61. Throwback to Queer as Folk’s Melanie and Lindsay…

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Melanie and Lindsay, Queer as Folk

62. Penny Dreadful is willing to push the envelope… Just not when it comes to casting women who don’t look the way mainstream insists women should look.

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Penny Dreadful

63. Adrianna and Gia…

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Adrianna and Gia, 90210

64. Paige and Alex…

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Paige and Alex, Degrassi

65. Luisa and Rose…

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Luisa and Rose, Jane the Virgin

66. Delle and Aneela…

Killjoys

…Delle and Aneela (and men)

Killjoys

67. Talia and Emily…

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Emily and Talia, Pretty Little Liars

68. Throwback to Kennedy and Willow…

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Kennedy and Willow, Buffy the Vampire Slayer

69. Tiana and Tory…

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Tiana and Tory, Empire

(and a guy)

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Empire

70. Sara and Nyssa…

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Arrow

71. Fiona and Jasmine. Shameless pushes the envelope— Just not when it comes to giving us a story line with an andro-hottie.

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Fiona and Jasmine, Shameless

72. Throwback to One Tree Hill’s Anna and Peyton (spoiler alert)…

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One Tree Hill

…an early victim of “Bury Your Gays.”

73. Marissa and Alex…

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Marissa and Alex, the OC

74. Cat and Frankie…

Frankie is one of my favorite bisexual characters… But my all-time fav bi character is further down on this list. Hint: Starts with Ka. Ends with “que linda!”

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Cat and Frankie, Lip Service

75. Samara and Emily…

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Samara, Pretty Little LIars

76. Zoe and Grace. Degrassi pushes the envelope, but not when it comes to putting a ‘butch’ lesbian on their screen.

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Grace and Zoe, Degrassi

77. Mary and Nora…

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Mary and Nora, Vampire Diaries

78. Karma and Amy…

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Karma and Amy, Faking It

79. Sara and Emily…

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Sara and Emily, Pretty Little Liars

80. Rasha and Zoe…

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Zoe and Rasha, Degrassi

81. Tara and Pam…

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Tara and Pam, True Blood

82. Spencer and Ashley…

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Spencer and Ashley, South of Nowhere

83. Jack and Imogen…

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Jack and Imogen, Degrassi

84. Throwback to Tara and Willow…

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Buffy the Vampire Slayer

85. Alice and Tasha…

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Alice and Tasha, LWord

86. Papi and Alice…

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Alice and Papi, LWord

87. Jess and Naomi…

Jess and Naomi, Katie Kills People

88. Kalinda and Lana. Kalinda is my favorite bisexual on TV. The reason: Her attraction to women is actually believable. You can feel the heat.

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Lana and Kalinda, The Good Wife.

89. Nova and Chantal…

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Nova and Chantal, Queen Sugar

90. Linda and Gina…

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Linda and Gina, Shut Eye

91. Emma and Izzy…

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Emma and Izzy, You Me Her

92. Annalise and Eve…

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Eve and Annalise, How to Get Away With Murder

93. Bette and Candace…

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Bette and Candace, LWord

94. Max and Eleanor…

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Max and Eleanor, Black Sails

95. Astrid And Niska…

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Astrid And Niska, Humans

96. Betty and Veronica. Not a couple (yet;). Just the one kiss and some flirting. But this is a list of “pairings” so here they are!

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Betty and Veronica, Riverdale

97. Jean and Sydney…

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Jean and Sydney, Gypsy

98. Robyn and Katherine…

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Robyn and Katherine, Desperate Housewives

99. Alice and Dana…

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Dana and Alice, LWord

100. Kellie and Yorkie

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Kellie and Yorkie, Black Mirror

That’s 100— And I could go on, but hopefully by now you get the picture.

Here’s the teeny-tiny list of five…

…Five (5) main characters that are either andro-adjacent or butch. In fact, it’s such a short list, that I’m going to embellish it with extra screenshots and some fun facts.

1. Shane

Shane is 1-of-2 lead andro-adjacent TV characters in a mainstream show (LWord). They dabbed her with lip gloss and gave her smokey eyeshadow— You know, because all women MUST have some stereotypical ‘feminine’ indicator. Shane, played by actress Katherine Moennig, is the only lesbian TV character who has ever reached her particular level of lez-super-stardom. She’s our lesbian anthem. The sex symbol heard ‘round the world. You would think mainstream TV might’ve taken the hint. But no. Sadly, they did not.
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Shane, The L Word

Unfortunately, Moennig was scripted to play yet another typical mainstream pliable ‘lesbian.’ The writers made her character into a gay man’s fetish— When Shane revealed a past of prostituting herself to gay men, millions of lesbians rolled their eyes at home. Baby butches cried out in the night. And I’ll let this belly-button revealing corset speak for itself. However, as far as casting goes, they hit the nail on the head with Moennig… because Shane put out an unprecedented level of on-screen heat.
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Shane, The L Word

2. Moira

The L Word finally gave us our first ever butch lesbian main character on a mainstream show. Daniela Sea isn’t a butch lesbian in real life, but she played one on TV. And we were over the moon. It had finally happened. It. Had. Finally. Happened.
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Moira, The L Word

…But then Moira became Max and began sleeping with gay men. In a recent People Entertainment video— where The L Word cast reunites to discuss a reboot— they sum up why the only butch character, Moira, becomes Max— “Moira kind of doesn’t really fit with the rest of the group… she’s not a girly–girl.”
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Max, LWord

So scratch that… The second spot is open. We’ll give it to Poussey— Yes, that’s the punchline of a name they gave her on OITNB

2. Poussey is the other somewhat-andro lead character to make it onto a mainstream show…

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Poussey and Brooke, OITNB

…But not really, because she’s arguably not andro. The flashbacks show her ‘femmed’ up. Butch isn’t a performance and it isn’t a phase… No, great-grandma, it’s not a matter of finding the right shade of lipstick or discovering the perfect dress someday. But we’ll keep Poussay on the tiny andro list any way, since andro lesbians get no representation. Us lesbians take what we can get. (spoiler alert)….
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Poussey, OITNB

Poussey quickly became a lez-crowd favorite, so they killed her off in the mean-spirited media game of “Bury your Gays.”
Fun fact: Poussey is played by actress Samira Wiley, who married Lauren Morelli (a writer and producer for OITNB) in a 2017 fairy tale wedding. Too cute not to share.

3. Stella

The role of Stella was played by actress Ruby Rose, who perfected the butch-andro swag for this brief role on a mainstream show. She caused a stir. And then she was gone. And we were all sad.
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Piper and Stella, OITNB

Stella won our hearts on OITNB… And in real-life, actress Ruby Rose recently won the heart of Jess Origliasso from The Veronicas. And (in case you don’t already know) she loves to switch up her look and challenge stereotypes.

4. Corkey

In the movie Bound, Corkey is played by Gina Gerson, who isn’t a lesbian and isn’t butch, but you can tell she takes her craft seriously and definitely did her homework.
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Corkey and Violet, Bound

Fun fact: Gina Gershon has a new thriller out this year called Inconceivable… and I’m so there!
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Gina Gershon and Nicolas Cage, Inconceivable

5. Big Boo

It’s 2017 and Lea DeLaria is still the only butch lesbian to ever land a main role on a mainstream show (OITNB). In an interview, “What Not to Love,” she talks about her disappointment with the ongoing media caricature of a ‘butch lesbian.’ She should know… She’s been playing the media’s butch punching bag since the 90’s. She used comedy and food as an escape— “There’s this thing inside your head, when you get home like at the end of your day and you walk into your apartment and you close the door and… there’s a part of you that goes, ‘phew. Made it. Nobody beat me up, nobody called me a dyke on the street. Today was a good day.”
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Lea watches one of her OITNB scenes as a guest on a Late Night TV show.

In conclusion, the mainstream media has a severe butch-phobia problem, and they’ve perpetuated a dehumanizing brand of homophobia targeting lesbians that has real-life consequences. It’s not only sanctioned, it’s encouraged. As for the girls and women who don’t check off the “pink is for girls” box, the non-stop psychological warfare is only getting worse… and it’s left many a lesbian with some really deep scars.
Julia Diana Robertson is an award-winning author and journalist. You can find her at www.juliadianarobertson.com
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This article is dedicated to my beautiful inside and out wife—The epitome of feminine beauty wrapped in a Hugo Boss suit. © JLI Photography

Updated on 12/30/2017

They Wanted Their Love Story to Change the World…

Clockwise from top left: Jeremiah Myers, Shanise Myers, Shanta Myers and Brandi Mells, in a family collage, posted by Brandi Mells on social media

On December 26th, a family of four was found brutally murdered in their home in the town of Troy along the Hudson River, in upstate NY. The victims have been identified as Shanta Myers, age 36, Brandi Mells, age 22, Shanise Myers, age 5, and Jeremiah Myers, age 11. The New York Daily News reported, “They were bound, and their throats were cut.” Troy Police Chief, John Tedesco, who has been in law enforcement for over 4 decades, said he’s never witnessed such a “savage” crime. He doesn’t believe the killings were a “random act.” He said, “I don’t think there’s any doubt that a person who committed this crime is capable of anything.”

Last year, Brandi Mells posted a photo collage of herself and Shanta Myers on social media— It reads “Some love stories change the world.” The day before that, she posted “Family til the end …Thankful for us.” Now, just a year later, their love story has come to a heartbreaking end.

“Some Love Stories Change The World” collage, posted by Brandi Mells on social media

Meyer’s sister, Shakera Symes, noticed that Jeremiah didn’t call her on Friday, which was unusual, since he would typically call her to chat when he didn’t have school—And the family didn’t show up at her house on Christmas as expected either. She asked the landlord to check in on them. The landlord made the harrowing discovery and notified the police.

One child was not home when his family was murdered—Isaiah, age 15, was away at a basketball tournament in Massachusetts at the time.

Troy Police have many leads and have gathered an “enormous” amount of video from cameras on the houses and businesses nearby. Police Captain, Daniel DeWolf, told NBC News, “We’re going to get to the bottom of it.”

The family was very loved in their community.

Shanta Myers was reported by the New York Post as “a hard-working mother who was devoted to her kids.” She loved to cook for her family. Symes described her sister as “so sweet” and “very mild-mannered” on NBC News, and told Spectrum News that her sister met Mells three years ago.

Brandi Mells prioritized family. Her close friend, Dria Hector, described her as a “sweet person” on NBC news. “She was a little person, but her heart was bigger than she was,” Hector said of Mells, who had dwarfism. Mells had lots of lesbian pride and Aquarius (astrological) pride, but it was clear that her greatest pride and joy was her family.

Jeremiah Myers, nicknamed JJ, loved basketball—Rev. Jackie Robinson, said “He was well-mannered, respectful, happy all the time.” Hollyanne Buntich, the human resources director of the Boys and Girls Club, said, “He was a ray of sunshine.”

Shanise Myers, nicknamed “Nise,” had a big heart and was often smiling. She was learning to cook. Like her big brothers, she enjoyed activities with the local youth programs. Dria Hector recalls, “She had a big personality.”

After a preliminary investigation, police believe the victims were targeted, but haven’t yet suggested a possible motive.

 UPDATE:

Suspects: James White and Justin Mann, Courtesy Troy Police Department
On Saturday morning, two men from Schenectady were arraigned. According to police, Justin C. Mann, age 24, and James W. White, age 38, are each charged with a count of first-degree murder and four counts of second-degree murder. Chief John Tedesco said the two men were apprehended “without incident” at the residence of Justin Mann. He also said one of the defendants knew one of the victims, but would not elaborate.

Both men have public defenders and plead not guilty. They are being held at Rensselaer County Jail pending their next court appearance on Thursday, Jan. 4.

Chief John Tedesco said, “We feel confident at this point that there will be no further arrests, but it is certainly open as we continue” the investigation. Both suspects have records and according to the state Department of Corrections and Community Supervision, Mann was paroled on a robbery conviction in June. Authorities wouldn’t say how the two suspects know each other.

According to new information given in court, the murders took place at around 9 p.m. Thursday, Dec. 21. All four victims had their hands and ankles bound. Investigation details shared with the media say the body of one of the women was found on a mattress, face down, while the other woman, also face down, was nearby, covered with a sheet. The children were found together in a kneeling position with their heads and chests on a bed. A knife with blood on both the handle and blade was recovered by police, located on a ledge close to the victims. A second knife was located on a bed. The victims were in close proximity to one another.

More than two dozen people from the town of Troy, several wearing Boys and Girls club apparel, were in the courtroom. Mells’ cousin, Sharonda Bennett, said Mells and Myers got engaged earlier this year. Mells’ uncle, Keith McCutchen, said “it was a relief” that the two men had been apprehended. He said he called his niece “Sweetie Bird” a nickname he gave her as a toddler. “She was such an easygoing, loving person,” he said. “I can imagine the look in her eyes when this was happening, like ‘Why would anyone do this to me?’”

This is a developing story. Check back for updates.

Shanise and Jeremiah, in front of their Victorian home in Troy NY, posted by Brandi Mells on social media

Julia Diana Robertson is an award-winning author and journalist. You can find her at www.juliadianarobertson.com

Kerrice Lewis, age 23, was brutally murdered just days after Christmas in Washington D.C.

On Thursday, December 28, police responded to a report of gunfire on Adrian Street, just south of G Street. They arrived at 7:30 p.m. and found a vehicle on fire. After the fire was put out, officers found a woman in the trunk who was unconscious and suffering from gunshot wounds. Police said that by the time D.C. Fire and Emergency Medical Services arrived, they found “no signs consistent with life.”

Neighbors said they heard multiple gunshots in the alley behind the 800 block of Adrian Street, SE, and moments later theysaw a raging fire. Kerrice Lewis was heard screaming as she tried to escape from the trunk.

Lewis was orphaned at the age of 11 and raised by her grandparents. Her grandfather, William Sharp, said he feels as though his heart has been ripped out. He said “her mother died of a brain aneurysm and her father was tragically murdered up in the D.C. area.” Lewis struggled deeply with the loss of her parents. She recently served time in jail. Her grandfather said she was striving to turn her life around.

Lewis worked on construction sites and Sharp said she “was very excited because she had just finished taking some classes and was looking forward to taking some more.” He said she was a “free spirit” and “full of life” and that “she would light up a room, just talking and laughing.”

Mercedes Rouhlac was Lewis’ best friend and ex girlfriend

Mercedes Rouhlac, the victims best friend and ex girlfriend, said she “talked to her everyday.” Rouhlac said she “just kept calling her” and wondering why Lewis wasn’t answering her phone.

Heartbroken friends of the victim are disappointed by the lack of media coverage. When lesbians are murdered the distinct media bias keeps the general population in the dark. This bias is multiplied where “butch” lesbians are concerned, and compounded if you’re a woman of color. Lesbian relationships are typically downplayed, sexuality is often omitted, and there’s a resulting lack of focus (with both investigations and media) on potential hate crimes—Even where the murder is exceptionally horrific (as in this case).

 

Police don’t have a suspect or a motive yet.

This is a developing story. Check back for updates.

Kerrice Lewis with her best friend’s son


جوليا ديانا —Julia Diana Robertson is an award-winning author and journalist. 

You can find her at www.juliadianarobertson.com 

Amanda Bearse chats with AfterEllen about her new play “Party Face” starring Hayley Mills, and reflects on her ‘Married…With Children’ days.

Amanda Bearse

It’s a chilly 49 degrees in Manhattan when Amanda Bearse pops the door open to let us in from the cold, and right away I feel at home. She has a warm demeanorshe’s the kind of person you could just chat with for hours. And the play she’s directing, I’ll soon discover, has that same feel. Party Face is inviting, and the family dynamic is uncannily relatable. Academy Award winner Hayley Mills  brings a generous platter of classic charm to this savory soirée. The script is brilliant and funny, and the cast has great comedic timing. Toward the end, Party Face pulls at your heartstrings. Dare I admit, this tough New Yorker teared up (just a little bit).

There’s something about the mother/daughter relationship that’s so hard to confront, and even harder to capture. This group has done it well. Even through the nitpicking, we finally see the overbearing mother for the vulnerable person she is—just a peek—and we can’t help but love her. And we finally see the unconditional love the daughters have for their mother—just a glimpse—captured in one breathtaking moment on stage. The all-female cast is wonderful and hilarious! As I sit down to chat with Amanda Bearse in a quiet area of the theater before the show, I have no idea what I’m in for just yet. You’ll have to go and see for yourself! For now enjoy this fun conversation with Amanda, served best with a hot cup of tea.

AfterEllen.com: On the way down here, my I wife and I were recalling catching episodes of Married…with Children when we were kids. And the thing that stood out, is that the women were supposed to be the butt of the jokes—the popular female stereotypes of the time: the nag, the bimbo, the shrew— but in the end, it was really the women who stole the show.

Amanda Bearse: Thank you!

AE: In the 80’s and 90’s, there was so much rampant misogyny and homophobia on television (and there still is now)… What was it like, as a woman, as a lesbian, working in such a male-dominated field?

AB: Well it is a male-dominated industry, and hopefully that’s going to change. Little by little it has. Married…With Children afforded me my second career, for which I’m very grateful, because I went behind the camera on that show. And I was able to do that because we had this long run… and they’re only going to pay me so much money so they said, “Is there something else you’d like to do?” [and I said] “Well, frankly yeah.” And I grew up doing theater, and I love crew, and I always paid attention to, and made connection with crews, as much as I did with cast. And so, it was sort of a logical place for me to end up. So my acting career is actually quite short relative to my directing career. And at that time, there were only about a handful of us women doing multi-camera directing. So I feel pretty fortunate in this male-dominated (white especially…were not talking about people of color…women or men) industry. And fortunately, with our rights as gay people in this country, there has been progress. We still have miles to go before we sleep.

AE: So many miles!

AB: But the stories—and everybody has stories to tell—the stories of women and the things that they suffered, especially in Hollywood-land, are important stories to tell. And I’m a #metoo. Not nearly suffering as much as some. I was more familiar with just bullying. There are a lot of of bullies in Hollywood. And that’s actually probably the catalyst where I said, “You know what? I don’t want to do this full-time. I have a young child. I want to go and grow her and work part-time, because I’m done with this way of life and having to deal with these awful men”. But nevertheless, on Married…With Children—which was a horribly misogynistic, homophobic, anti-everything show—I was treated with a lot of respect from the producers, writers, the creators of the show. And also, they’re the ones—even though I negotiated to direct—that could say, ‘OK we’ll pay you the money, but we’re really not gonna let you do it’… But they did… And again and again and again and again… And so that’s why here I am, decades later, still behind the scenes.

AE: That’s amazing. My father-in-law loves to quote Al Bundy.  That’s actually where he borrowed the nickname he gave my wife: Pumpkin. He even says it in the Al Bundy voice.

AB: Well, and that was part of the success of the show, is that back in the mid-80s, the male demographic watched sports and news, very little in entertainment television. Now mind you, this was the world of three channels, plus PBS. But three major networks and they said there’d never be a fourth. And then along came what they called at first FBC—which is now FOX—and Married… With Children became the anchor of that network, and of course now the industry is digital. But before the digital age, the cable network universe came in to being. So it’s changed. I’ve been in television more than half the life of television, and it’s seen such a change in evolution, not always for the better. Sometimes simpler is better.

AE: I agree. In my house we watch a lot of older shows because there’s so much graphic violence now. If it’s TV-MA we avoid it.

AB: What do you watch?

AE: A lot of FRIENDS reruns. There’s always FRIENDS playing in the background at our house.

AB: Yes, it’s great. Because it’s smart.

AE: Yes. And the stuff that comes out now has so much violence against women. Now everything you put on starts with sex or rape. Nowadays, TV feels pornographic.

AB: A lot of it is. And you become anesthetized to that. But I love FRIENDS, and Marta Kauffman and I,  we were actually in school together in New York. And she was a year ahead of me at the Neighbor Playhouse—and David Crane, her writing partner—and they’re just so intelligent and the writing was so… not only was it funny, it was smart funny, which Married…With Children really wasn’t. It kind of had a lower bar than that demographic.  That doesn’t mean that smart people didn’t find it funny and enjoy the show. But… the Bundy family… we weren’t coming from a place of intellectual and deeper thought. And if anything Marcy—and Steve, my first husband more so than Jefferson—we really were aiming for that, or thought we were that… (laughs) and then we would just get lowered down to their level every single time.

AE: And now let’s talk about Party Face, your Off-Broadway debut. Congratulations!

AB: Thank you!  It’s so exciting. It’s very full circle for me to come back into the theater, where I came to New York to study, and then I went off on this television mostly—little bit of film—career. So this is just very joyful.

L to R: Standby, Alison Cimmet, cast members, Brenda Meaney, Gina Costigan, Klea Blackhurst, Hayley Mills, Allison Jean White and director Amanda Bearse. photo: Henry McGee

AE: And with Hayley Mills! Over Christmas I coincidentally watched The Parent Trap—The original. It’s one of my favorite classic movies. 

AB: I mean I love Parent Trap, but Summer Magic‘s my favorite Hayley Mills. Now Hayley Mills, seriously, I was eight years old and I had a her LP: Let’s Get Together. And way back then, that’s all you had. So you would see a movie in the theater and then some of them would make it on television years later. Some of them would maybe have an annual, or every two years you would see it again. But what you had was all that was available. And for me, it was that LP. And I would just stare at it, and flip it over and read everything I could, and just stare at it. And I told her this, and she was very kind about it.

AE: And now you’re working together. Life has so many interesting patterns. How did you all connect to do Party Face?

AB: Here’s the deal about that, seriously, and I had no idea this was going to circle around—that our work was going to intersect. Unbelievable! Because what she reflected for a young girl in the 1960s and 70s was a smart, precocious, sometimes tomboyish—There was nothing like that in media and very little in literature. But Hayley was this really unusual part of my childhood, that when it stopped—and I go into my own teens and, you know, start coming into my own self—you know, she was out of that consciousness. So the fact that we were able to, first of all, reach her with the script… that she responded to it the way we hoped she would, and then that she embraced it, and met us all on an even platform, to come together, to fully realize who these women are. These are five strong female characters, of a certain age, and of course she is the matriarch in the show. But she’s funny! She is just unbelievably funny. And she’s a dream. So not only did it turn out to be this kind of weird thing where “I used to just stare at you! Just stare at you, as a kid because of what you reflected back to me” as a precocious kid that I was, as a tomboy girl that I was, that it’s OK! That I’m not the only one!

AE: Speaking of tomboys, it’s 2018, and there’s still only ever been one “butch” lesbian actress to ever get cast as a main character on a mainstream television show. And she plays the butch prototype— a caricature, a punchline. Lea DeLaria.

AB: Oh, I know Lea.

AE: Small world! And she’s actually complained about that. Did you ever feel like you had to conform? I wonder what that’s like for lesbian actresses. I wonder if there will ever be a place for “butch” lesbian actresses… Or realistic depictions of lesbians—(as in not the whole femmes-only, sexually-flexible, male-fantasy “lesbian”). 

AB: I hope so! I hope so!  It really is in the writing. And it’s in the power. And getting that writing realized in a production way. But it’s happening. It’s not there yet. It’s inherent in the writing, and then the opportunities that need to happen—that need to be offered. And I’m hopeful. We’ve come a long way, but we still have a long way to go. And sometimes it is two steps forward and one step back… I was not “out” for most of my acting career, so yes, I did have to conform as a young actress, because I wasn’t fully integrated (as a lesbian) in my career. I felt that I had to leave out a huge part of myself at work. Future representations of lesbians in entertainment is dependent on the writers out there working in the industry. All good work begins in the script, and if the writing isn’t there, and the development of these projects isn’t supported, then the public will not see it.

AE: Back when you “came out” publicly there were real consequences to coming out, and to this very day in 2018, I don’t think people really grasp that coming out still has consequences. I’ve personally lost jobs, in both New York and LA, when people I work for find out that I’m a lesbian. What kind of real impact did coming out have on your career?

AB: I had the support of my working family. I’d been living my life out loud privately. And so everybody knew I was gay at work. And then I had the support—and with that—of the producers, writers, studio, network. There weren’t any secrets about it. But when I made the choice, and that was around the birth of my daughter that I decided to tell my story my way. Because this is before social media, and so the tabloids press is what was out there to sort of bastardize a story—They’ll take a little bit of truth and then really fabricate it, slant it, and just skew the perspective on it. And the birth of my daughter was a very sacred time of my life, and experience, and I wasn’t going to let that be the only story out there. So that’s when I decided, at that point in time, to come out professionally and publicly.

I didn’t realize until I saw this epic E-True Hollywood Story on Married…With Children (that was like four hours long) that there was stuff raining down from above that they sheltered me from… meaning negative points of view. The studio and the network had my back, my producers really had my back. It was never indicated to me that there was a rumbling, or any kind of backlash.

Here’s the other thing, I had already focused my career behind the camera, so even though I was still on camera, and continued to be for some years while the show ran, I purposefully stopped acting after Married… With Children. I really wanted the powers that are in Hollywood to take me seriously as a director, and Hollywood is all about limitations: You do this, you don’t do that. We know you as that. You’re not that. So I shut that door completely. I also, by shutting that door completely, didn’t fully test the waters… Women are always looked down upon in a male-dominated industry. And that’s starting to shift, you know, it’s Women’s March and Power Puff Girls.

AE: How would you compare all of the experiences you’ve traveled through—From All My Children, to Married…With Children, to Party Face and everything in between?

AB: Yes. I started on that soap [All My Children]. That was my first job. This is a very different feeling, this type of work here in the theater—in the respect and mutual respect—than what I experienced in Hollywood. Married…With Children is not a show that would get on the air today—because it’s so universally offensive—although at the time (and it was about timing) people were ready for a voice that just laid it out there. There were two creators of Married…With Children, and one especially wrote a different voice than the other, and that’s who wrote a lot of Marcy’s voice, which is intelligent and sort of, believe it or not, initially, some normalcy to implant on the show. The show just got so crazy by the end of the run that we were all basically cartoon characters, just live action. We were the live-action Simpsons.

L to R: Cast members, Gina Costigan, Alison Cimmet, Brenda Meaney, Klea Blackhurst, Allison Jean White, producer Morgan Sills, producer Jan Warner, Hayley Mills, director Amanda Bearse, producer Robert Driemeyer. photo: Henry McGee

AE: You directed the awesomely funny Big Gay Sketch Show, with Rosie O’Donnell as the producer, and that show pretty much launched Kate McKinnon into lesbian stardom! Did you guys ever have lesbian dinner parties?

AB: I can’t say that we did! I didn’t live in NY. So I think if I’d had a home here that might’ve happened. I can’t say enough wonderful things about Kate, and she was still in college when we cast her in the show. I just feel like we were lucky enough to see a glimpse of what all is there, but it took another 10 years for her to end up on SNL and really blow up in the way that she’s done and deserves to be. She is incredibly talented, extremely bright. She’s gifted. She’s lovely. I can’t say enough good things about her and I told her that when I was working with her… And I would say “It’s just a privilege and I’m first in line in your fangirl forum”. And she has a lot of grace. We have a little email connection, but it’s been years since I’ve seen her.

AE: I think it’s time for that dinner party!

AB: It is! It is! And I want her to come to the play, because I think she’d really love it!

AE: I have to ask! What’s your sign?

AB: I’m a Leo, but I have a Gemini rising and Gemini moon. so my mercurial kind of crazy nature is really from the Gemini.

AE: Are you down to do a quick speed round?

AB: Sure!

AE: Cats or dogs?

AB: Dogs. But my wife has a very large cat. My daughter has two cats. And I have three dogs. So I’m surrounded by animals!

AE: Subaru or VW?

AB: Mini Cooper.

AE: Doc Martens or heels?

AB: Ha! What do you think?! Doc Martins are too heavy for me right now, so we’ll say Penny Loafers.

AE: NY or LA?

AB: New York. *said with a lot of certainty…My kinda gal.

AE: Tea or coffee?

AB: Coffee.

AE: Go out or stay in?

AB: Mostly in. Except in NY. It’s crazy here!

AE: FRIENDS or Seinfeld?

AB: FRIENDS.

AE: Vanilla or chocolate?

AB: Vanilla.

AE: Oprah or Ellen?

AB: Ahh…Oprah.

 

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My wife and I, fangirl-ing with w/Amanda Bearse & Morgan Sills

جوليا ديانا —Julia Diana Robertson is an award-winning author and journalist. You can find her at www.juliadianarobertson.com